ENTJ/INTJ

ENTJ = extraverted, intuitive, thinking, judging

Approx. 3-5% of American population

ENTJs are great leaders and decision makers. They easily see possibilities in all things and are happy to direct others toward making their vision become a reality. They are ingenious thinkers and great long-range planners.
Because ENTJs are so logical and analytical, they are usually good at anything that requires reasoning and intelligence. Driven to achieve competence in all they do, they can naturally spot flaws that may exist in a situation and see immediately how to improve them. They strive to perfect systems rather than simply accept them as they are. ENTJs enjoy working with complex problem solving and are undaunted in their pursuit of mastery of anything they find intriguing. ENTJs value truth above all else and are convinced only by logical reasoning.
Eager to continually add to their base of knowledge, ENTJs are systematic about planning and researching new things. They enjoy working with complex theoretical problems and work toward the pursuit of anything they find intriguing. They are much more interested in the future consequences of actions than the present condition of things.
Natural leaders with a hearty and frank style, ENTJs tend to take charge of any situation they find themselves in. They are good organizers of people because they have the ability to see ahead and then communicate their vision to others. They tend to live by a rather strict set of rules and expect others to do so as well. Therefore, they tend to be challenging and push others as hard as they push themselves.


POSSIBLE BLIND SPOTS:

Owing to their desire to move on to the next challenge or toward their larger goal, ENTJs sometimes make decisions too hastily. Slowing down occasionally will give the chance to gather all relevant data, and consider both the practical and personal ramifications of their actions. Their actions orientation propels them to act on their decisions as soon as they are made rather than stopping to double check their facts and the realities of the situation.
Because ENTJs take a logical approach to life, they can be tough, blunt, impatient, and insensitive to the needs and feelings of others when they don’t see the logic of those feelings. ENTJs can be argumentative and difficult to approach and don’t often welcome the commonsense advice of others. Rather than automatically being critical, they need to listen to the input of those around them and express their appreciation for their contributions. ENTJs need to make a conscious effort—in fact to make it a rule—to stop and listen to others before charging ahead with their own ideas, and avoid acting domineering and dictatorial.
ENTJs’ impersonal approach to life leave little time, tolerance, or compassion for emotions, even their own. When they allow their feelings to go ignored or unexpressed, they can find themselves overreacting emotionally. They are particularly prone to this if they perceive someone to be questioning their competence, especially someone they respect. They can have explosive reactions to seemingly insignificant situations, and these outbursts can be hurtful to those close to them. ENTJs are more effective and happy when they give themselves time to consider and understand how they really feel. Giving their emotions a constructive outlet, rather than allowing them to take over their personalities, will actually allow them to stay more fully in control, a position they enjoy and strive for. Surprisingly, ENTJs may actually be less experienced and competent than their confident style indicates. They will increase their personal power and rate of success by allowing themselves to take some reasonable and valuable assistance from others.



INTJ

Approx. 2-3% of American population

INTJs are perfectionists. Their strong need for autonomy and personal competence, as well as their unshakable faith in their own original ideas, drives them to achieve their objectives.
Logical, critical, and ingenious, INTJs can see the consequences of the application of new ideas and live to see systems translated into real substance. They are demanding with themselves and others, and tend to drive others almost as hard as themselves. They are not particularly bothered by indifference or criticism. As the most independent of all types, INTJs prefer to do things their own way. They are usually skeptical, decisive, and determined in the face of opposition. They are not impressed with authority per se, but can conform to rules only if they see them as useful to their greater purpose.
With original minds, great insight, and vision, INTJs are natural brainstormers. They are naturally theoretical and work well with complex and global concepts. They are good strategic thinkers and can usually see with clarity the benefits and flaws of any situation. In subjects that interest them, they are fine organizers with insight and vision. If the idea or project is of their own making, they can invest incredible concentration, focus, energy, and drive. Their many accomplishments are achieved through determination and perseverance toward reaching or exceeding their high standards.


POSSIBLE BLIND SPOTS:

Being visionaries with sometimes unrealistically high standards, INTJs may expect too much from themselves and others. In fact, they tend not to care how they measure up to others’ standards; it is their own that are important. They may lack an understanding of how their behavior affects others and can be critical and blunt in giving recommendations for improvement. They don’t often encourage others to challenge their views or express any personal feelings. Because INTJs have a rather impersonal style, they may erroneously assume others wish to be treated in the same manner. They need to learn to understand the seemingly “illogical” feelings of others, and accept that they are rational and valid. This will help keep them from alienating and offending those around them.
Because INTJs often chose to be alone and are single-minded in their efforts, they can neglect to invite others to participate or assist in their activities. Soliciting the input and suggestions of others can help them recognize and impractical idea earlier in the process, or help them make the necessary changes and improvements before investing huge amounts of time.
Increased effectiveness for INTJs lies in making an effort to yield on less important points to win the more important ones. This will also decrease the likelihood of the INTJ becoming too stubborn and controlling. When they make an effort to adopt a more accepting approach to life and their dealings with others, INTJs will achieve more balance, competence, and succeed at having more of their innovations accepted by the world.

One of my favorite pasttimes is swinging. I love to feel the wind, listen to my favorite tunes, see pretty parks, and contemplate life. I was at my parents' house last night and there is a playground a block away from our house. I told my dad at 11:00 at night that I wanted to go swinging. Since it was late I knew he would be concerned, but he let me anyway. Their neighborhood feels so much safer to me now that I can compare it to the neighborhood my apartment is in. While I was swinging, my dad was walking by and he was talking on the phone with my mom. A little bit later, a cop car drove past and a few seconds later it turned around and they shone their flashlight at me. I figured they would. Oh well, they didn't make a big fuss. I was afraid they would tell me to leave, but since my dad walked over, he told the cop that I am "older than I look" and that I'm nearly 21. Oh Dad, you make me feel like I am still your baby girl. I at least don't think I look REALLY young, do I? There was no big fuss and he left me alone. I think the next time I take a late night swing, I might have to carry my license on me.

Speaking of swinging, I went swing dancing for the first time on Thursday. I have been trying to go for weeks. I just never could go on Thursdays, when the two most popular places here do it, until my classes finished for the Summer. On Wednesday, I heard from a couple of my friends that one of my friends was going swing dancing with a group of people. I gave them a call and we actually made plans for him to take me. I was so pumped. This guy knew that I've been trying to go dancing for weeks. Well, Thursday afternoon he texted me and said that his group cancelled their plans, but I could still try to find a group to go. Yuck. I knew right away that that meant I was not going. I can never get anybody to do the things I want to. I asked all of my friends I knew on campus and even some from off campus. I could only get one girl who lives in Richfield to agree to go. At this point, I just looked up the bus routes to get there, because I knew I had no ride, but I was still planning on going. I was a little concerned that once I got there, it would only be old men and impossible to find someone to dance with. I still decided to take that chance and went out to the bus stop. While I was waiting, my friend from Richfield called and said that her car wouldn't start. "Welp," I thought to myself, "I guess I'm going alone." I missed the first bus. It passed me as I was walking out to the bus stop. I waited for about a half an hour for the next one to reach me. That bus ride was boring and long. It was the opposite of fun. I had to make a transfer, but missed that bus too and the next one wasn't coming for 45 minutes. "Welp," I thought to myself again, "I guess I'm walking there." I asked a kind looking woman how to get to Wabasha St. She pointed me in the right direction, but then aksed where I was trying to get to. I told her I needed to get to Plato St. Luckily, she was going in the same direction and told me to take a different bus, which would arrive in about minutes. Yay! My night was saved. When I saw my destination, I got so excited! I always feel so proud of myself in situations like this. This is the kind of situation where I thought there was no chance of me ever getting to go and yet I made it happen! They were in the middle of lessons when I arrived. I noticed that the boys and girls were lined up in separate lines. I didn't really have room to join in, so I turned the line into a little L. The teacher told the gentlemen to grab their partners. It was awful, I noticed that everyone came with someone. I made a note to myself to insure that I bring someone the next time I come. One of the teachers looked around and found a partner for me. He looked like he was in high school and was totally blushing. The teacher said, "I found one for you, and look, he's a cute one!" I didn't care, I was there to swing dance and I would dance with anyone. But then a girl he came with walked over and I was like, "Oh did you come with her?" and I let them dance together. So I had to practice with one of the teachers... which ultimately helped me because she was already pretty good and helped me out. When the music started, I at least thought that it would be fun to sit, watch, and listen. I love big band music even if I'm not dancing. I found a good spot and enjoyed watching. A group of college students came in. They were really fun to watch! They were really good! Then one of them came up to me leaned over, offered his hand and said, "Would you care to dance?" I smiled, said, "Sure!" and took his hand. He was cute and even more attractive since he was a pretty stellar dancer. Even though I slowed him down, he had a good attitude and it was really fun. Then I went back to my spot and watched until the next boy asked me to dance. He wasn't quite as confident as the other, but he was still a good dancer. The first song was pretty slow, so he was asking me all these questions. I thought it was a little funny that his response when I asked him where he's from was, "I'm from Ohio, I'm a missionary." And he didn't eplain it at all. I had no idea if he was a missionary in Minnesota or what he meant. I didn't care too much, because I was having fun being able to dance again. Later, I sat for the rest of the time and watched people go nutso on the dancefloor. Fun, fun, fun. My notes for next time are: 1. Wear my fun navy polka dot dress 2. Wear heels and 3. BRING SOMEONE.

I have been quite busy with filling my time with hanging out with friends, doing yoga, and going swing dancing. All of these things are fun, but at the end of the day it is always the time I spent doing something for someone else that makes my day worth it.

Freshman year COMPLETED!!!

I just finished my first year of college! Wohoo! And to celebrate I am watching Community. Yeah I know, I could be spending time with real people. But I also get to read Forgotten God and sip some tea without the daunting due dates of homework and tests looming. It . feels . NICE.

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When I was walking in my building to my room, I saw a policewoman going to my CA's room. There was a middle aged man in the doorway. The door was propped open all the way. The lights were off. And a girl was bitterly sobbing. I suddenly felt really strange and slightly scared. I felt the way you do when something might be horribly wrong.

i have been staying up really late. ugh. i should get off now. yeah.

My Korean Oral Final ^^;

This is with translation... I'm 줄 and my friend, Michelle, is 미.

줄 : 안녕하세요. Hi!

미 : 안녕하세요. Hi!

줄 : 미셸씨, 오늘 예뻐요. Michelle, you look pretty today!

미 : 감사합니다. 줄리아씨, 무슨 옷 좋아해요? Thanks! Julia, what kind of clothes do you like?

줄 : 저는 예쁜 셔츠와 청바지 좋아해요. 미셸씨는 무슨 옷 좋아해요? I like pretty shirts and jeans. Michelle, what kind of clothes do you like?

미 : 셔츠하고 치마를 좋아하지만 겨울 자켓은 싫어해요. I like shirts and skirts, but I don't like winter jackets.

줄 : 아 그래요? 여름 좋아해요? Ah, really? Do you like the summer?

미 : 네, 날씨가 따뜻해서 좋아해요. 줄리아씨는요? Yes, I like warm weather. Julia, what about you?

줄 : 네 저도 여름 좋아해요. Yes, I also like the summer.

미 : 줄리아씨, 이번 여름방학에 뭐 할거에요? Julia, what are you going to do this Summer break?

줄 : 집에 있을거에요. 그리고 일하면서 수업 들을거에요. 미셸씨는 여름방학에 뭐할거에요? I'm staying at home. I'm also working while taking classes. Michelle, what are you going to do during Summer break?

미 : 여름방학에 싱가폴에 갈 거에요. I'm going to go to Singaport this Summber break.

줄 : 싱가폴에서 금색 샌달을 사줄수 있어요? 싱가폴 샌달은 너무 예뻐요! In Singapore, can you please buy me gold sandals? Singapare sandals are very pretty!

***Sidenote: Michelle is actually going to try to bring me back some gold Havaianas!!

미 : 네. 샌달을 사올게요. Yeah, I'll buy you sandals.

줄 : 싱가폴에서 뭐하고 싶어요? What do you want to do in Singapore?

미 : 싱가폴에서 가족을 보고 친구도 만나고 잘 먹고 쇼핑하고 스쿠버다이빙하고 싶어요. I want to see my family, meet up with my friends, eat a lot of food, go shopping, and go scuba diving.

줄 : 싱가폴에서 태어나서 자랐죠? You were born and raised in Singapore, right?

미 : 네, 싱가폴에서 태어나서 자랐어요. Yeah, I was born and raised in Singapore.

줄 : 가족이 몇명이에요? How big is your family?

미 : 네명 있어요. We have four people.

줄 : 몇째에요? What's your birth order?

미 : 저는 첫째딸이에요. 줄리아씨 가족은 몇명이에요? I'm the first daughter. Julia, how big is your family?

줄 : 제 가족은 여섯명 있어요. My family has six people.

미 : 우와. 많아요. 줄리아씨는 몇쨰에요? Woah, that's a lot. Julia, what's your birth order?

줄 : 저는 셋째에요. I'm the third child.

미 : 줄리아씨 어디에서 태어나서 자랐어요? Julia, where were you born and raised?

줄 : 미네소타에서 태어나서 자랐어요. Minnesota.

미 : 줄리아씨 어머니는 미네소타 음식을 요리잘해요? Julia, does your mom cook Minnesotan food well?

줄 : 네, 미네소타 음식을 요리잘하세요. Yes, she cooks Minnesotan food well.

미 : 줄리아씨 요리하기 좋아해요? Julia, do you like cooking?

줄 : 가끔 요리 좋아해요.빵 만들기가 요리보다 더 좋아요. Sometime. I like baking bread more than cooking.

미 : 오 줄리아씨 빵 만들수 있어요? Oh, Julia, you can bake bread?

줄 : 네, 자주 만들어요. 미셸씨 어머니는 요리하기 좋아하세요? Yeah, I make it a lot. Michelle, do you like your mom's cooking?

미 : 아니요. 어머니는 요리하기 싫어해요. 하지만 할머니는 요리하기 좋아하세요. No. I dislike it. But I like my grandma's cooking.

줄 : 무슨 음식을 요리 하실 수 있어요? What kind of food can she cook?

미 : 할머니는 아시아 음식을 요리하실 수 있어요. 그리고 할머니가 요리하는 음식은 정말 맛있어요. She can cook Asian food and it's very delicious.

줄 : 미셸씨는 요리하기 좋아해요? Michelle, do you like to cook?

미 : 네. 저는 요리하기 정말 좋아해요. Yeah, I really like to cook.

줄 : 우리 같이 요리 할래요? Would you like to cook together sometime?

미 : 네, 그럼요. 줄리아씨 지금 일 하세요? Yeah. Julia, do you have a job right now?

줄 : 네, 티가든에서 일하고 있어요. Yeah, I'm working at Tea Garden.

미 : 오! 진짜요? 저도 여름방학에 티가든에서 일할거에요. Oh! Really? I'm also going to work there this summer.

줄 : 아 그래요? 언제부터 시작해요? Ah, really? When do you start?

미 : 유월 십사일부터 시작해요. 줄리아씨는 무슨 차 좋아해요? June 14th. Julia, what kind of tea do you like?

줄 : 다 좋아해요. 특히 녹차를 좋아해요. I like all tea. I particularly like green tea.

미 : 보통 차 마시면서 뭐해요? What do you usually do while you drink tea?

줄 : 숙제해요. 숙제가 많아서 차를 자주 마셔요. 미셸씨는 차 마셔요? I do homework. I have a lot of homework, so I drink a lot of tea. Michelle, do you drink tea?

미 : 네. 차는 몸에 좋아서 많이 마셔요. Yeah, tea is good for you so I drink a lot.

줄 : 무슨 차가 몸에 좋아요? What kind of tea is good for you?

미 : 녹차가 몸에 좋대요. Green tea.

줄 : 아 그래요? 저는 일본 녹차 아이스크림을 정말 좋아해요. 미셸씨는 아이스크림 좋아해요? Oh, really? I really like Japanese green tea ice cream. Michelle, do you like ice cream?

미 : 예. 너무 좋아해요. 특히 초콜렛 아이스크림을 좋아해요. Yeah, I like it very much. I particularly like chocolate ice cream.

줄 : 이번주말에 같이 아이스크림 먹을래요? Would you like to eat ice cream this weekend?

미 : 네 같이 먹으러 가요. 남자친구도 와도 돼요? Yeah, we should go together. Can I bring my boyfriend?

줄 : 그래요. 이번 주말에 봐요. 안녕히 가세요~ Ok. We should try this weekend. Bye!

my latest words.

go on, take your chalk and trace around me
fill me in the way you think i should be
can't imagine how i'd be if i were
truly myself, it would be great i'm sure
you start, but you leave me, still, quite empty
i'm left needy. feel my tears, set them free
they'll wash away your lines, i'll feel more pure
truly myself, it just takes a savior.